Dick believes that despite a greater scientific understanding of the role of temperament shaping parenting, it still hasn"t hit the mainstream. That"s because if we attribute certain behaviours or preferences to genetics, it can feel as though it diminishes our role as parents. Instead, though, we can reframe this insight to help us understand how much – or how little – parents shape their children"s lives, as it takes away an element of perpetual self-blame when children don"t behave how we expected them to.